“The world is too dangerous for anything but truth and too small for anything but love.”

 

 

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  • What does Paramita mean?

Paramita is a Sanskrit word that means “to cross over to the other shore.” This applies to marriage counseling and couple therapy in that they can help you and your partner “cross over to the other shore” of friendliness and mutuality that may have been lost in your relationship.

Unfortunately, we may lose appreciation of our partner — the one we picked, and the one that is in our care — because past hurts and insensitivities have accumulated over time. Thus, the relationship that once provided security, support, and love is now compromised along with our full potential as human beings.

My job is to help you two “cross over” or return, to mutuality and security — conditions that will enable your relationship and love to thrive again.

  • Marriage Counseling & Couple Therapy
    Happy couple sharing tea
    My wife Jessica and I on a nice fall day.

I work with couples at any stage of the relationship.

I offer marriage counseling and couple therapy for couples experiencing anything from minor misattunements to those experiencing several years of discord.

My special interests are working with couples struggling with substance abuse issues and/or affairs.

Q: Do you offer premarital counseling?

A: Yes, I thoroughly enjoy premarital counseling for couples wanting to create a strong foundation. We address any concerns about your future, in addition to big-ticket items such as money, kids, sex, and where you two see your relationship in 5 to 10 years.

Q: What is your training in marriage counseling & couple therapy?

A: I am a PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) Level II trained therapist. The therapeutic stance of PACT is that a secure-functioning relationship enables you two to be seen, understood, and loved. It provides an opportunity for intimacy, and for you two to be your true selves.

Q: How long does couple therapy take?

A: That depends on you two. I do, however, operate within a frame of longer sessions. Since my sessions are 2-3 hours long — with the initial session being 3 hours — we are able to get a lot of work done and steam going in the beginning. The longer sessions are fun, and after the initial session, couples begin to have hope — if that has been missing in the relationship.

As a result of longer sessions, a fewer frequency of sessions are needed. It has been my experience that couples usually always appreciate this approach.

  • Individual Counseling

I am also passionate about working with individuals struggling with addiction, relationship issues, anxiety as well as spiritual and existential questions. I appreciate when men make it to therapy, as it is a sign of strength despite outdated cultural mores.

  • Fact of Life

There is one glaring fact of life: someday we will die. So we better get on appreciating ourselves and loving each other. Whether in a committed relationship or not, we owe it to ourselves and each other to be happy. We don’t know how much time we have. So let’s get on with loving each other and appreciating life!

I believe William Sloane Coffin Jr. summed it up pretty well:

The world is too dangerous for anything but truth and too small for anything but love.

Thank you for visiting my website, I look forward to crossing over to the other shore with you.