“The world is too dangerous for anything but truth and too small for anything but love.”



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  • What does Paramita mean?

Paramita is a Sanskrit word that means “to cross over to the other shore.” This applies to marriage counseling and couple therapy in that they can help you and your partner “cross over to the other shore” of friendliness and mutuality that may have been lost in your relationship.

Unfortunately, we may lose appreciation of our partner — the one we picked, and the one that is in our care — because past hurts and insensitivities have accumulated over time. If this occurs, we neglect repair and our relationship suffers. Thus, the relationship that once provided security, support, and love is now compromised along with our full potential as human beings.

My job is to help you two “cross over” or return, to mutuality and security — conditions that will enable your relationship and love to thrive again. Conditions that will also improve your overall emotional and physical health.

  • Marriage Counseling & Couple Therapy
    Happy couple
    My wife Jessica and I on a nice fall day.

My passion is working with couples at any stage of the relationship. I offer premarital counseling for couples wanting to create a stronger base. I also offer marriage counseling and couple therapy for couples experiencing anything from minor misattunements to those experiencing discord after several years of tension, mistrust, or infidelity. I work with heterosexual, same-sex, as well as polyamorous couples.

I am a PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) trained therapist, and I operate from a pro-relationship stance. That is, two is better than one, and what is good for the relationship is good for both partners. When partners are able to create security and sensitivity in the relationship, both partners benefit. Partners will have more resources and confidence in the world, and old relationship wounds will have room to heal.

My sessions are 2-3 hours long, with the initial session being 3 hours and subsequent sessions 2 hours. I also offer one-day couple intensives. Longer sessions provide enough time to get an ample amount of work done and co-create a cohesive narrative and treatment plan. Longer sessions usually facilitate a fewer frequency of sessions.

  • Individual Counseling

I am also passionate about working with individuals struggling with addiction, relationship issues, anxiety as well as spiritual and existential questions. I appreciate when men make it to therapy, as it is a sign of strength despite outdated cultural mores.

  • Fact of Life

There is one glaring fact of life: someday we will die. So we better get on appreciating ourselves and loving each other. Whether in a committed relationship or not, we owe it to ourselves and each other to be happy. We don’t know how much time we have. So let’s get on with loving each other and appreciating life!

I believe William Sloane Coffin Jr. summed it up pretty well:

The world is too dangerous for anything but truth and too small for anything but love.

Thank you for visiting my website, I look forward to crossing over to the other shore with you.